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The 80/20 rule:
People spend 80% of
the time worrying about the surgery and about 20% of the changes in
their own behavior.
Someone wrote: ( To the Bandsters
email list server )
"Say what you said again (or maybe that was Jen) about how people spend 80% of the time worrying about the surgical
details and only 20% of the time worrying about changing their behavior afterwards when it ought to be the other
way around. "
Reply One:
I did make a comment about the 80-20 rule.. probably others have said the same thing. For me personally, I worried
about stuff like:
-dying from the amnesthia used during surgery
-the scars
-that fills would hurt
-having a foreign object in my body
-that an abdominal port placement would cause problems
-every possible complication that anyone on the planet has ever
experienced
-alien invasions and other terribly unlikely events
Reality check
-the surgery is very low risk,
-the scars are small and who really cares,
-fills for me are not painful and only mildly uncomfortable. No port problems - and my doc has been doing this
since 1995 and has a method that seems to work.
-this foreign object is helping me change my life for the better
-reflux, which I had never even heard of, is the only real complication I have experienced. It is quite manageable
and not a real problem for me.
-My European colleagues assure me that all alien landings are in the USA, just watch the XFiles if you doubt it
What I SHOULD have focused on:
-learning to listen to my body (what does it mean to feel full?)
-readjusting serving sizes and eating expectations
-how does it really feel to give up snacking?
-do you realize how little food you really need? How do you get your mind and eyes to understand that?
-what do I really want to get out of WLS?
-what will it take to make this really work for me and make my goals come true? Do I have the persistence and
patience to make it through the good and the bad times?
-how will I ask for help when I really need it?
I did think of these things, but it was probably the 20% instead of the 80% it should have been
Sheryl
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